In fact, you have a Giants-logo birthmark on your forehead (“It’s in your blood!” your parents say proudly each time), and you do not plan to surgically remove it.The question that keeps lingering in your mind and unsettling your stomach is this: Does she really like me for who I am, or does she just have a Giants-fan fetish?Personal preferences in dating or sex are not the same thing as fetishes.
If you want to date me or have sex with me, with the expectations that I’ll carry out your preconceived notions about Asian women, then you have Yellow Fever.
Being in love with the idea of someone without actually getting to know the person as an individual is unfair and disrespectful.
It’s an awful feeling to realize that the cute guy who approached you is as interested in you as he is in every other girl who shares your race: you’re as special as millions of others.
But someone expecting me to fulfill all the cultural stereotypes of my race that he’s infatuated with?
That is called prejudiced ignorance and a refusal to recognize me as a complex, real human being.