The crowd was a mix of college guys and young professionals. And when the topic of my work came up, I told a small group of guys that I was working on an interesting article that required me to tap real-life guys for their opinions on dating single moms. I would absolutely go on a date with a single mom and see where it could lead.I don’t have kids, but I want kids, so if she already has one or two, it would be a bonus.Her free time is precious, and you're probably not getting all of it. So when she finds herself without children for a few hours or even a few days, don't blame her if she has a list of things to do and they don’t all include you — even if that list consists of binge-watching TV and sleeping in. Situations differ but generally speaking, if your once-partnered lady has kids, those kids likely have another parent that's still in the picture in some capacity. Your lover had a life before you and at some point, that included a partner with whom she had a kid or five. Sometimes that can be hard to do, but you can do it — even if her ex is a special brand of asshat — which brings us to our next point …4. In the event you have found yourself really digging someone whose ex really makes you want to go WWE on his or her ass, we have a bit of advice for you: It's admirable that you feel protective of your partner and it's natural to have ill feelings toward someone who is hurting your partner in some way, but the best possible thing you can do in this situation is to let her handle it and support her as she does. No passive-aggressive Facebook posts, no antagonizing texts, no standoffs at the PTA fundraiser. A million dollars says she already knows, she already feels sh*tty about it, and she doesn't need to hear it from you.
If you've been in the dating scene for any significant length of time, you likely feel you've got it handled. Her life is full of responsibility and commitments and little people who need her. Upside: You’ll have plenty of time to maintain your own friendships and hobbies, instead of becoming one of those obnoxious enmeshed couples who have forgotten they are not, in fact, surgically attached.2. Want to know the fastest way to end your relationship with a single mom? Not only were they in her life first, but she’s the reason they exist at all. They’re not an inconvenience and they are definitely not your competition. Would you really want a woman who let some new person — even one as rad as you — take precedence over her kids? It’s something to be admired, even if it didn’t end up the way anyone had planned. (Balls joke avoided.) The sitter may bail on her, her kid may come down with the flu, she may just need to lay down for a while because trying to be Wonder Woman when you don't actually have superpowers is really fucking exhausting. She probably can't drop everything and hop on a plane to Ibiza with you, and her schedule is probably measurably more complex than that of someone who is flying solo. Even if you don’t have kids yourself, you can still relate to her life – you were a kid yourself once! Read some parenting forums for tips on step-parenting, and talk to friends who’ve dated single parents.Don’t feel you have to offer advice or guidance, just listening is enough. A single mum hasn’t got time to text you all day or spend all weekend by your side.You might have a really fun time with your nephew at Christmas, but this isn't the same as cleaning up vomit at 3 a.m. Planning time for mascara is hard enough; popular culture becomes the Great White Buffalo.Ask about what she loves about being a mom, ask about what her kids' interests are, admit that you've never seen 3. At least not until you're all functioning as a family unit, which takes time, honesty, and patience, and possibly some therapy.4. Do make her a mixed CD and enjoy watching Netflix together after the kiddos hit the hay. Throw everything you know about scheduling out the window. It’s also gorgeous and fulfilling and soul-expanding and generally incredible. This complicated, sometimes-messy, often-unpredictable life of the badass warrior mother you are into?She has enough mystery in her life trying to work out why little Johnny suddenly refuses to eat peas, or why her ex cut off his maintenance. All those Nice Guy qualities you’ve been playing down because you thought they were boring? If you show interest in her children, you’ll build a solid bridge into her life. If you’re not a parent yourself and feel like you need a better idea of what life around kids is really like, spend time with your friends’ families, or babysit your nieces and nephews. Reliability is the quality she’s searching for, as it means she can hand over the reins every now and then. If you’re a spontaneous kind of guy, manage it INTO the date itself: skip dessert in the restaurant for a moonlit drive, or swap the cinema for a walk along the beach.