These stories implied the guys wanted to pull out all the stops to show they were worthy of a woman’s time and attention. Why do women in 2016 now need to find love in Starbucks during an inconvenient 20-minute coffee break or prove ourselves before we’re upgraded to real silverware?
They get bored.” Flores says men often become fascinated by women with high standards, especially when, in their experience, other women will give in and just go along with what they want.“If something doesn’t work out, you can find an immediate replacement in the swipe of a finger,” Flores says.The cons of this trend for women are pretty obvious, but one pro is that it lets you find out quickly who is willing to put in the effort to win you over, Flores says. Well, for one thing, she says, “men are denying themselves the opportunity to really get to know someone.” While we wait for them to realize this, women don’t need to sit around lamenting the digital revolution and resigning ourselves to poorly worded texts and afternoon lattes as long as we’re single.1.Flores explains that there’s nothing wrong with telling a guy you’d prefer to meet for dinner not coffee, then standing by it.Although dating apps are seemingly geared toward player types, don’t forget that there are plenty of fish in the sea for a girl like you. “You have the option to move on too.” She says women should stop being so accommodating by continuing to accept brief encounters and meetings without substance.We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!D., author of , men these days aren’t doing as much to impress women because they don’t have to.“Before when men were wooing women, things weren’t easy,” she continues. Now your first impression is [already made by your profile] on your smartphone.”Flores explains that the notion that we all are manipulating our profiles and photos in order to create a glittery illusion of who we are may be one reason men might not want to invest time and money in a proper date.I’d tell him I was busy at work in the late afternoon, so no, but was he up for happy hour instead?He’d always say no and suggest we have coffee or lunch between his meetings on another workday.