And there certainly are times when people who go down this path find that it really wasn’t worth it.
But if you’re wondering how to go about dating your friend’s ex, and you think the pursuit might really have potential, don’t worry, you are not a terrible person.
Take it from a guy who has been in this tight spot a time or two—there are three things you must do before moving forward with your friend’s ex. Anyone who has had any sort of meaningful romantic relationship can tell you that—over it or not—it would be difficult for them to be around their ex.
Perhaps you’re thinking to yourself, “We’re all adults here. So even if your friend is “OK” with you dating her ex, you are likely going to see a lot less of your friend.
You’re into it, he’s into it, there’s some serious chemistry, and you might have stumbled upon something really special. In discussing this topic with my female friends, it seems to me that men are especially experienced in dealing with this dilemma.
Now, you’re faced with a most unenviable predicament: Walk away from someone who could end up being the love of your life, or put one of your friendships in jeopardy.
Perhaps the most important thing is learning from what happened. This means not accepting blame from a partner that you are the one who was solely responsible for things not working out.
Unless you were in an abusive relationship, the fact is that both you and your partner probably contributed to the downfall of your partnership.
Birthdays, anniversaries and special days can provide a fairly constant reminder of what’s gone, even if you were the one to make the decision to split.
So, in essence, trying to escape from painful feelings by throwing yourself into another relationship or just glossing over the how sad you feel isn’t going to help.
If we think about it, the great sadness about losing someone you’ve loved means that we were human enough to love deeply, so in many ways although terribly painful, great sadness about the loss of a relationship is testament to how much we’re capable of loving someone.
Don’t be an a-hole,” can prevent us from wondering, “What if . This sort of stuff happens more than you might think.
People often have a bad opinion of pursuing friends’ exes.