A friend once told me his test of whether he's over an ex is whether it would bother him if they were dating someone else.Under that logic, I've never gotten over anyone in my life.We were never exclusive and hadn't spoken in six months! After doing some soul searching, I realized my reasons were different for each person.With the first ex, I still relied on him for emotional support the way I did when we were dating, and seeing him with someone else made me wonder if we could still have as close a relationship.Then, out of nowhere, she starts to get weird about it whenever you bring up his name. A few weeks later, you find out (somehow) that she’s been really friendly with your ex. You’re like: You ask her about it and she’s like, “Oh, yeah, we have this in common, blah blah blah,” and you try to be cool about it but inside you’re like… You start to freak out, wondering what is going on. Then he texted his friend, telling him he matched with his ex (since his friend had no idea who I was), and he seemed pretty embarrassed, but also told my ex that I was "ridiculously gorgeous." I came across his friend again on Tinder about a month later, and ended up matching with him again.We started messaging each other, and decided to go on a date about a week after texting.
You feel good about the fact that you know your best friend would never do something like that to you…
Months and sometimes years after a relationship, my heart rate still accelerates when I see an ex is dating someone new on Facebook. I wasn't entitled to feel this way — I broke up with him!
Over a year after I ended one relationship, I found some photos on Facebook of my ex with a woman I didn't recognize. After I last spoke to another fling I never even officially dated, I made sure to unfollow him on Facebook so I didn't have a similar experience.
You talk to your best friend about it all the time. You’re so upset you don’t even want to leave your bedroom. (But don’t worry, you will.) Has one of your friends ever dated your ex?
At first she’s so supportive and nice and says all the right encouraging things. She swears once again that nothing is happening between them, but you don’t believe her. A few days later, you see her write on his Facebook wall and you’re so mad you don’t know what to do.