If they're sad, they may question whether they're still desirable. However, millions of people manage to date happily with STDs.
Sometimes, that's because they don't know they have an STD.
If the only thing you have in common is an STD, that's not the best foundation for a relationship Everyone's tolerance for STD risk is different.
Many people believe that having an STD makes a person dirty or unlovable. The more people realize how common STDs are, the harder it is to judge someone for having them.
It also increases the risk of someone saying something they'll regret. Others save the conversation for before physical intimacy, but after they've determined a potential partner is someone they feel safe talking to.
Still others put it on the table even before going on a first date.
Support groups for some of the more stigmatized STDs, like herpes and HIV, are available both in person and online.
There have also been a growing number of STD dating websites.