It’s counterintuitive because, let’s face it: if he’s cheating with you, honesty and trust can’t be topping your list.
Nor can respect, availability, spending holidays and family time together, or being his first priority. Because for some single women, a relationship with a man who is married gives you breathing room.
Yet, when it comes down to it, women consistently chase after the “bad boy," the guy who is narcissistic, self-absorbed and avoids all forms of intimacy as if they were infectious diseases. While women claim to want “the nice guy,” we're genetically hard-wired to want to procreate with the alpha male because he has stronger sperm.
A woman's dating preference is the ultimate paradox. We want to have serious relationships with good, sweet guys, but we want to make babies with aggressive assh*les. In two studies highlighted in “Sex Roles, A Journal of Research,” the “nice guy paradox” is explored.
The narcissistic male does not make a good partner, but even experienced females do not realize this. In a tragic twist of fate, the assh*les are now breeding assh*les. The tests are tried and true; women habitually chase these d-bags, despite how many times they have their hearts broken. We want those arrogant dicks who make us somehow feel alive.
We choose assh*les because of the danger factor involved in dating guys who are strong and conceited.
When single women see a moderately attractive male, they are more interested in him if they believe he is already in a relationship!
Both studies found that “nice” qualities were more desirable for long-term relationships while physical attractiveness prevailed in terms of sexual relationships: Niceness appeared to be the most salient factor when it came to desirability for more serious relationships, whereas physical attractiveness appeared more important in terms of desirability for more casual, sexual relationships.Especially for rule-breakers, it’s just more fun being naughty. And the sex is great because it’s new, adventurous, no strings attached, etc..There’s also the super-competitive woman who craves the competition, seeing mate poaching as the mother lode of wins to boost her self esteem.We know they're wrong for us, they'll never treat us the way we think we deserve to be treated, and instead of running for the hills, we jump on for the ride. No woman wants to be with a man who doesn't know how to assert himself.Whether we want to admit it or not, we want excitement in our relationships. This can be a difficult thing to admit as a strong, independent female, but it is, nonetheless, true.The nice guy may seem great on paper, but he turns out bland in real life. As often as we ladies say those chaotic personality traits aren't what we're looking for in a boyfriend, they are. When a woman is faced with a "bad boy," she automatically finds the challenge to tame him alluring.Women like to "fix men." A nice guy doesn't need any taming. His vanity is all at once angering and intoxicating.If she can bring him down to earth, it would be the ultimate accomplishment. Fw-300 #ya-qn-sort h2 /* Breadcrumb */ #ya-question-breadcrumb #ya-question-breadcrumb i #ya-question-breadcrumb a #bc .ya-q-full-text, .ya-q-text #ya-question-detail h1 html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-text html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] #ya-question-detail h1, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] #ya-question-detail h1 #Stencil . If someone else wants him, he must be worth wanting. Remember, too, that some traditional types may want happily-ever-afters of emotional availability and financial security, while others may be after less than the full enchilada of marriage and children.Counterintuitive as it may seem, she might want more than a one-night stand but less than a full-fledged full-time beau that’s hers and hers alone.