Discuss how a wedding will affect your wider families and what weddings and marriage mean in each of your cultures. Yes, you are going to have adorable mixed race babies. This means embracing cultural celebrations with the family.If there’s a language barrier, it means working past this and finding a means of communication.You always need to embrace these with an open mind.Never stop learning You have the unique chance to learn from someone you care about.Doing this together will help keep you strong and bonded. These conversations may seem intimidating, but they need to happen for a long term mixed race relationships.Talk about the future If you’re in it for the long term, you need to broach the subject of the future. In terms of marriage, talk about what kind of ceremony you want and how you will incorporate both cultures. Accept each other’s families Whatever the family dynamics are, you and your partner need to accept each other’s.Learning to enjoy the company of your partner’s family, and vice versa, is incredibly important in having a future together.You don’t want family to become a source of angst in your long term future together, so it is better to accept them early on in the game.
Understanding societal context can help you and your partner combat the ignorant comments and racial misjudgments.
Here are some tips to you help you find the right pathway to long term happiness in your interracial relationship.
Remain open minded Even after you’ve had all the big talks about your different racial backgrounds and your ethnic identity, you still need to remain open minded.
Piper again has helpful words: Here is where Christ makes the difference. It comes with disapproving looks, racist and prejudice comments, rejection, and poor theological arguments against your interracial relationship from loved ones who have previously supported and loved you well. The goal of this article is not to provide a biblical basis for interracial marriage.
Christ does not call us to a prudent life, but to a God-centered, Christ-exalting, justice-advancing, counter-cultural, risk-taking life of love and courage. I’m thankful for John Piper’s and Trillia Newbell’s writings on this.